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ATTENDANTS' DUTIES


Maid or Matron of Honor
(Bride's right-hand woman):
  • Responsible for her own gown and accessories.
  • Helps arrange bridal shower.
  • Keeps a record of shower and wedding gifts.
  • Arranges/hosts bachelorette party for bride.
  • Since she is such a close friend or relative, she should also be prepared to go shopping with the bride, go to parties, help with invitations and favors, and help in any other way with the wedding and reception arrangements.
  • She is the stable and clear-headed support during the final days before the wedding; unofficially calms the bride's nerves.
  • Assists and consults bride.
  • With the bride's mother, helps bride while dressing.
  • Acts as an official witness (must be over 18).
  • Helps bridesmaids on wedding day.
  • Adjusts bride’s veil.
  • Rearranges train of bride’s gown before processional.
  • *In the processional, the maid of honor precedes the father and bride down the aisle.  If there is ring bearer and/or flower girl, she precedes them.
  • Holds the wedding ring that will be given to the groom; hands it to the bride at the appropriate time..
  • Holds bride's bouquet and possibly gloves during ceremony.
  • Arranges train when bride turns to leave at end of service.
  • *Walks with the best man in the wedding ceremony recessional.
  • Helps bustle gown at reception.
  • Stands next to couple in receiving line (if there is one), usually right next to groom.
  • Sits on groom's left at bridal table.
  • Cares for bride's things at ceremony and reception; makes sure no personal items are left at either place.
  • Assists the bride when changing from her wedding gown to her going-away outfit.

Bridesmaids:
  • Generally responsible for their own gowns and accessories.
  • Assist in all pre-wedding festivities, such as showers and bachelorette party.
  • Wrap small gifts for the reception favors (optional).
  • Fill cups with confetti, rice, or rose petals to throw for the getaway or decorate bubble bottles (if those are used)
  • Assist in wedding preparation, such as addressing the invitations and running errands.
  • Decorate the reception site.
  • *In bridal procession, before the Maid/Matron of Honor.
  • *Walk in recessional with groomsmen/ushers.
  • Sit at bridal table in an alternating pattern with ushers.
  • Can stand in receiving line (if there is one).
  • Act as hostesses at the reception.
  • Help decorate the getaway car.

Junior Bridesmaid:
  • Generally responsible for their own dresses and accessories.
  • Girls 8 to 14 years of age.
  • Walks in processional.
  • Walks in recessional with junior usher.
  • Not in receiving line.
  • May attend rehearsal and showers.

Flower Girl:
  • Usually between 3 to 7 years of age.
  • Dress paid for by her family.
  • Her dress complements the bridesmaids' dresses.
  • Not at rehearsal dinner.
  • *In procession, immediately precedes the bride and her father down the aisle, after the ring bearer if there is one.  She usually tosses paper petals or fresh flower petals.
  • *Walks next to the ring bearer in recessional.
  • Not in receiving line.

Best Man
(Groom's right-hand man and problem-solver):
  • He's responsible for his tuxedo and accessories.
  • Assists groom with wedding and reception arrangements.
  • Arranges/hosts bachelor party for groom.
  • Responsible for the details of the groomsmen's attire (planning fittings, picking up complete outfits, and returning rented ones).
  • Reminds groom of details.
  • Helps groom pack; makes sure groom has everything for trip.
  • Helps groom dress before the wedding
  • Stays with the groom up until the time of the ceremony and offer moral support.
  • In charge of the groom arriving on time.
  • He sees that ushers' function runs smoothly.
  • Keeps rings, license, and honeymoon tickets in a safe place. 
  • Hands the ring to groom at the appropriate time.
  • *Escorts the maid of honor in the wedding ceremony recessional.
  • Acts as an official witness (must be over 18).
  • Distributes fees for officiant, organist, soloist, musicians, etc. (in envelopes).
  • Drives couple to reception location if it is separate from the ceremony location.
  • Sits to bride's right at bridal table.
  • Usually does not stand in the receiving line (if there is one).
  • Gives the first toast at the reception; acts as toastmaster at the bridal table.
  • Acts as Master of Ceremonies during the reception, if needed.
  • Fourth in line to dance with bride (order is groom, father-in-law, father, best man)
  • Helps groom change into traveling clothes.
  • Takes care of wedding clothes.
  • Help in couple's departure from the reception.
  • In charge of transportation for bride and groom to leave reception.
  • Makes sure luggage is stowed in going-away vehicle.

Groomsmen/Ushers:
  • Responsible for their own attire.
  • Assist in preparations when necessary.
  • Involved in all ceremony festivities.
  • Attend bachelor party.
  • Put pew ribbons in position.
  • Greet all guests at the ceremony, ask which family they represent and seat them accordingly.  (Bride's family and friends sit on the left of the aisle and the groom's on the right.)  The usher's right arm is usually offered to the lady, who is then escorted to the open pew closest to the front of the church. (The farthest-forward pews are traditionally reserved for immediate family members.)
  • Last to be ushered in are the mothers of both the groom and bride, respectively.
  • Then, usually two of the ushers unroll the aisle runner after the bride's mother is seated.
  • *Walk in recessional with bridesmaids.
  • If unmarried, they should transport the bridesmaids to the reception location if it is separate from the ceremony location.
  • Sit at bridal table in an alternating pattern with bridesmaids.
  • Usually do not stand in receiving line.
  • Responsible for dancing with as many unescorted women guests as possible.
  • Help decorate the getaway car.

Junior Usher:
  • Between 10 and 14 years of age.
  • Dresses like ushers.
  • May place pew ribbons.
  • May attend rehearsal.
  • Walks in recessional with junior bridesmaid.
  • Not in receiving line.

Ring Bearer:
  • Between 3 to 7 years of age.
  • He walks down the aisle carrying the ring, or a substitute, secured to a satin or white velvet pillow.
  • *In processional immediately precedes flower girl if there is one; if not, precedes the bride and her father.
  • *Walks next to the flower girl in recessional.

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Click here for our Tips about a diagram which shows the typical Christian and Jewish formations for the processional, ceremony and recessional.

ATTENDANTS' DUTIES


Maid or Matron of Honor
(Bride's right-hand woman):
  • Responsible for her own gown and accessories.
  • Helps arrange bridal shower.
  • Keeps a record of shower and wedding gifts.
  • Arranges/hosts bachelorette party for bride.
  • Since she is such a close friend or relative, she should also be prepared to go shopping with the bride, go to parties, help with invitations and favors, and help in any other way with the wedding and reception arrangements.
  • She is the stable and clear-headed support during the final days before the wedding; unofficially calms the bride's nerves.
  • Assists and consults bride.
  • With the bride's mother, helps bride while dressing.
  • Acts as an official witness (must be over 18).
  • Helps bridesmaids on wedding day.
  • Adjusts bride’s veil.
  • Rearranges train of bride’s gown before processional.
  • *In the processional, the maid of honor precedes the father and bride down the aisle.  If there is ring bearer and/or flower girl, she precedes them.
  • Holds the wedding ring that will be given to the groom; hands it to the bride at the appropriate time..
  • Holds bride's bouquet and possibly gloves during ceremony.
  • Arranges train when bride turns to leave at end of service.
  • *Walks with the best man in the wedding ceremony recessional.
  • Helps bustle gown at reception.
  • Stands next to couple in receiving line (if there is one), usually right next to groom.
  • Sits on groom's left at bridal table.
  • Cares for bride's things at ceremony and reception; makes sure no personal items are left at either place.
  • Assists the bride when changing from her wedding gown to her going-away outfit.

Bridesmaids:
  • Generally responsible for their own gowns and accessories.
  • Assist in all pre-wedding festivities, such as showers and bachelorette party.
  • Wrap small gifts for the reception favors (optional).
  • Fill cups with confetti, rice, or rose petals to throw for the getaway or decorate bubble bottles (if those are used)
  • Assist in wedding preparation, such as addressing the invitations and running errands.
  • Decorate the reception site.
  • *In bridal procession, before the Maid/Matron of Honor.
  • *Walk in recessional with groomsmen/ushers.
  • Sit at bridal table in an alternating pattern with ushers.
  • Can stand in receiving line (if there is one).
  • Act as hostesses at the reception.
  • Help decorate the getaway car.

Junior Bridesmaid:
  • Generally responsible for their own dresses and accessories.
  • Girls 8 to 14 years of age.
  • Walks in processional.
  • Walks in recessional with junior usher.
  • Not in receiving line.
  • May attend rehearsal and showers.

Flower Girl:
  • Usually between 3 to 7 years of age.
  • Dress paid for by her family.
  • Her dress complements the bridesmaids' dresses.
  • Not at rehearsal dinner.
  • *In procession, immediately precedes the bride and her father down the aisle, after the ring bearer if there is one.  She usually tosses paper petals or fresh flower petals.
  • *Walks next to the ring bearer in recessional.
  • Not in receiving line.

Best Man
(Groom's right-hand man and problem-solver):
  • He's responsible for his tuxedo and accessories.
  • Assists groom with wedding and reception arrangements.
  • Arranges/hosts bachelor party for groom.
  • Responsible for the details of the groomsmen's attire (planning fittings, picking up complete outfits, and returning rented ones).
  • Reminds groom of details.
  • Helps groom pack; makes sure groom has everything for trip.
  • Helps groom dress before the wedding
  • Stays with the groom up until the time of the ceremony and offer moral support.
  • In charge of the groom arriving on time.
  • He sees that ushers' function runs smoothly.
  • Keeps rings, license, and honeymoon tickets in a safe place. 
  • Hands the ring to groom at the appropriate time.
  • *Escorts the maid of honor in the wedding ceremony recessional.
  • Acts as an official witness (must be over 18).
  • Distributes fees for officiant, organist, soloist, musicians, etc. (in envelopes).
  • Drives couple to reception location if it is separate from the ceremony location.
  • Sits to bride's right at bridal table.
  • Usually does not stand in the receiving line (if there is one).
  • Gives the first toast at the reception; acts as toastmaster at the bridal table.
  • Acts as Master of Ceremonies during the reception, if needed.
  • Fourth in line to dance with bride (order is groom, father-in-law, father, best man)
  • Helps groom change into traveling clothes.
  • Takes care of wedding clothes.
  • Help in couple's departure from the reception.
  • In charge of transportation for bride and groom to leave reception.
  • Makes sure luggage is stowed in going-away vehicle.

Groomsmen/Ushers:
  • Responsible for their own attire.
  • Assist in preparations when necessary.
  • Involved in all ceremony festivities.
  • Attend bachelor party.
  • Put pew ribbons in position.
  • Greet all guests at the ceremony, ask which family they represent and seat them accordingly.  (Bride's family and friends sit on the left of the aisle and the groom's on the right.)  The usher's right arm is usually offered to the lady, who is then escorted to the open pew closest to the front of the church. (The farthest-forward pews are traditionally reserved for immediate family members.)
  • Last to be ushered in are the mothers of both the groom and bride, respectively.
  • Then, usually two of the ushers unroll the aisle runner after the bride's mother is seated.
  • *Walk in recessional with bridesmaids.
  • If unmarried, they should transport the bridesmaids to the reception location if it is separate from the ceremony location.
  • Sit at bridal table in an alternating pattern with bridesmaids.
  • Usually do not stand in receiving line.
  • Responsible for dancing with as many unescorted women guests as possible.
  • Help decorate the getaway car.

Junior Usher:
  • Between 10 and 14 years of age.
  • Dresses like ushers.
  • May place pew ribbons.
  • May attend rehearsal.
  • Walks in recessional with junior bridesmaid.
  • Not in receiving line.

Ring Bearer:
  • Between 3 to 7 years of age.
  • He walks down the aisle carrying the ring, or a substitute, secured to a satin or white velvet pillow.
  • *In processional immediately precedes flower girl if there is one; if not, precedes the bride and her father.
  • *Walks next to the flower girl in recessional.

*

Click here for our Tips about a diagram which shows the typical Christian and Jewish formations for the processional, ceremony and recessional.
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